Recently, Mr. F and I decided to "share" our Facebook and email accounts. Long story but it's all good.
Good but weird.
I do find that I'm less likely to talk about personal things with friends over email/facebook, now. Like, I won't share how upset I am that Mr F ate the last chocolate chip cookie I was saving for after my workout... (THAT PIG!!!! lol).
And, just yesterday when a friend said she would message me with some details about her private life, I found myself telling her to "just text me, instead". I'm sure if she knew my reason for asking, she'd thank me! :D
What are y'alls thoughts about personal privacy and it's place in a marriage relationship. And how does that affect other people's expectations of privacy in their relationship with you?
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Well, I try really hard not to diss my spouse in a public forum, even if it's in jest. That's just a matter of respect for both of us. I rarely share anything personal about my spouse with even my closest friends.
My husband doesn't have a FB account, so he uses mine if he wants to look at our kids' pages. It's never concerned me because I have nothing to hide. Then again, he's not the jealous type, so he really doesn't care that I might be FB friends with any ex-BF. We trust each other 100%.
Normally, we share most things. However, there are a few biggie secrets that friends have told me that I've kept to myself out of respect for my friends.
It's funny - Jen actually has her own email account, but she always uses mine; less passwords to remember that way, I guess. . .
But of course, I also have my 'blog' email, separate from my 'personal' account.
What Bijoux said about dissing of spouses. Even in jest, there's all manner of potential for hurt feelings. . .
And secrets of sufficient magnitude are best shared in more private forums, anyway. I never cease to be amazed at some of the things people will put on their FB pages. And I'll just leave it at that. . .
Awww, you guys are makin me feel bad for my chocolate chip cookie comment. Which, yes... could have totally happened around this house... but didn't actually.
Good points all around.
I tend to not give a damn about most of my life being out there for anyone to see. MY WIFE, however, prefers that I not let out as much as I sometimes do. So, I usually try to take her feelings on the matter into account. However, I figure, if I've done anything stupid or immoral or otherwise something she wouldn't like in public, someone is just as likely to dig it up anyway and by my putting it out there first it defuses any future embarrassment.
Now see, there's quite a bit of diff between e-mail and Facebook that makes sharing FB not all that groovy. We have entirely different trains of thought and, well, are both regular users. The multiple personalities on FB causes genuine confusion. My brother and his wife shared a FB account and it was really tough figuring out which responded to who about what to the extent that folks just stopped interacting with them and she eventually just stopped.
On the other hand e-mail sharing can work but I would always advise another separate e-mail account for friends to share sensitive data with you. If they know spouse is listening in it there's a trust issue, particularly if they are not close to spouse or if they don't feel a trust level with spouse. And you never know if spouse might chime in in your stead ..... temptation being what it is.
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